Relationships

Hey guys.

So I'm back with a post that will definitely shake a few tables 😂😂😂 But i had to do it.

It's okay to give up on people, that's something I've had to learn the hard way. The way I am personally it's very difficult to cut people off. Lord knows if you were important to me a few months ago I still care about you. But that has jeopardized my own heart and my own feelings, and I'm sure a bunch of you can relate. Some relationships are toxic either intentionally or unintentionally. Those are the ones we need to focus on letting go off. The relationships that cause us grief, the relationships that cause us to question our beliefs and values.

If in a relationship you are always apologizing even when you're not the one who's at fault, cut it off. Cause it's a sense of dependency that we'd be better without, when you keep apologizing you'll build the habit and you'll never be able to speak up When you need to.

If in a relationship the same mistakes keep happening over and over then that has either been ordained not to be successful or you're holding in to nothing but the fumes. Because why will you keep hurting yourself over the same thing.

If the other person in a relationship cannot apologize, now I have said this before to a bunch of people, you cannot decide why or if I should be angry, what you did offended me and I am hurt. If the other person cannot see this and say sorry then that's a relationship you need to cut off.

If you're the only one that's giving in the relationship, you text all the time you're the one keeping the thing going basically you're the only one putting active efforts. Then that's a clear red light. Leave.

If in a fight, you keep pushing on triggers. If you're my friend you know my vulnerable parts, you know where it hurts and if we are in a fight and you hit me where it hurts or you blurt out secrets, then that's not a good thing, and nonetheless the other person isn't a good person.


If the other person cannot forgive, inasmuch as you should cut people off when they hurt you, if it's not serially then you're being illogical. A person makes a mistake once and you have hardened you heart. Yeah that's not the best thing to do. You have to be open to forgiveness unless it becomes a serial behaviour.

Something that's really important that I cannot stress upon, ignoring issues doesn't make it go away. If you don't talk about a problem it will come up stronger every time.
You cannot say oh I don't want to argue and expect things to continue fine, it might but note that's a rain cloud over the relationship. And it won't progress.

Then finally, something I heard or saw somewhere, "If they aren't supporting you, praying for you, loving you or appreciating you. Then they're taking from you."


So I just thought I'd do this because I feel some people need to hear this and understand.
We're young and we can't be around too much toxicness.
Honestly If you feel I'm one Of the toxic people in your life feel free to block or delete my number or whatever you need to do.
You cannot keep giving one person a million chances to break you in different ways.


So you know the drill, comment and share if you liked it. Also hmu on my socials obehiee_ on instagram and Twitter.
Thank you so much for reading
Btw I'm not subbing, I have low-key been writing this for a while and I've been using several relationships of mine as case studies💫

Byeee❤❤